Why Money or a Sex Life Feels So Hard For You
Most men are chasing results in business and dating while secretly carrying shame about even wanting them.
They say they want confidence. Clarity. Purpose.
But under all that?
They want money.
They want sex.
They want to feel like powerful, wanted, respected men.
And they feel like shit for wanting that.
That shame — the fear of being seen as selfish, aggressive, too much, too loud, too direct — is exactly what keeps men quiet at work, hesitant on sales calls, insecure with women, and stuck overthinking everything.
That’s what I unpacked inEpisode 1 of The Podcast You Always Needed, and it set the tone for everything that’s followed since.
Here’s what you’ll find inside that episode (and why it still hits hard today):
Why money and sex are primal desires, not superficial ones, youdon’t need another funnel or dating hack. You need to reconnect with your biological power to create and reproduce — without apologizing for it.
How society has conditioned you to fear your masculine nature.You were taught to be “nice,” play small, hide your desire, and fear rejection. That programming is killing your confidence.
How this shows up in work, dating, and social media.Staying quiet in meetings, avoiding sales, overthinking DMs, not speaking your truth with women — all of it comes back to fearing you won’t be “liked” for who you are.
Why will no strategywork without belief in your own skin? You can study every playbook out there, but if you don’t trust yourself to show up authentically, nothing lands.
How to build inner power and undo the guilt.This is the work I guide men through inside Divine Alchemy Brotherhood: owning desire fully, then transcending it.
We’re 4 episodes in now, and this one is where it all began.
If you’re ready to stop hiding and start living as the man you actually are… this is your next move.
🔥 Listen now:
▶️The Podcast You Always Needed on YouTube
▶️The Podcast You Always Needed on Spotify
We go DEEP.
Much love,
Shawn “Sheshn” Heshmatpour
